Reader question: self conscious in glasses

This question came in from Heidi.  Any advice for her older son?  -Ann Z

P1010032Hi, I am a mom of 2 boys that wear glasses.

My oldest is 5 1/2 and just got his glasses the week before kindergarten started.  My youngest is 2 1/2 and has worn glasses for 9 months.  My oldest is the one who doesn’t want to wear his glasses now.  He picked out his frames and we have 2 different retainers to keep them on his face.  His little brother and I both wear glasses.  We, also, just found out a girl in his class now wears glasses.  He has always been terribly outgoing and wanting people to notice him, a showman, really, but now all of a sudden he is self conscious.  Any ideas?

2 responses to “Reader question: self conscious in glasses

  1. I have been talking to a lot of people what l know who have either gone through or going through their little ones wearing glasses one suggestion l thought was good was the star chart and some sort of reward after 10 or 20 star that sort of thing may work.

    I have a question for you if you dont mind. I really like the look of your younger sons glasses what is the brand name and where did you get them. As my son who has just turned 2 has to get his first pair of glasses and these look perfect.



  2. I can understand completely what you are talking about with your son. My daughter Emma was just a few months past her 4th birthday when she got her glasses. She was not very happy about getting them. When she did finally get them my husband and I were just amazed at how quickly she felt different. She didn’t want to wear them out of the house, she didn’t want people to see her with them on and she didn’t want people to say anything about them. School was tough for her – natural curiosity from her classmates made her very uncomfortable. One of the hardest things for me was when she would look at herself in the mirror and tell me how she didn’t like how she looked with her glasses.

    But, the more positive side to my story is that as time went on Emma became more and more used to wearing her glasses and became less self conscious. I don’t really know what to tell you as far as ideas….in the beginning when she was having the hardest time I just tried to be patient – it was a huge adjustment for her and she needed time to get used to it. Having gone through getting glasses as a kid myself I felt it was important not only to be positive and encouraging with her but also to acknowledge that I knew it was hard to get used to wearing glasses.

    And the really good part of all of this is now, when she looks at herself in the mirror, she likes how she looks, glasses and all. = )

    Best of luck with your son….I hope he starts to feel better about wearing them soon….


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